Because I’ve heard exceptionally many stories about lost and found love this year, I’ve been pondering on the matters of the heart – love, romance, infatuation, fondness, lust, passion, compassion, connection – and how much time we spend thinking and talking about them. Most people (regardless of their gender or sexual orientation, I hasten to add) who come to see me mention love during their appointment. Often it is the absence of romance ...Continue Reading → Share
We go to almost unbelievable lengths to avoid pain. We keep ourselves busy with full diaries, have a drink, go shopping, spend hours on Facebook, watch films, read books and so on. I’m not saying all these activities are bad and should be avoided, but there certainly is a rather large grain of truth in the ancient Buddhist teaching about suffering being ...Continue Reading → Share
I’ve just been thinking about matters afterlife of late, prompted by a journalist asking me what I think of mediums. I then realised, once again, that it’s not afterlife but life before death that really matters.
As you may know, I’ve trained as a medium myself. The years I spent in the weekly circle at the College of Psychic Studies were important and grounding, ...Continue Reading → Share
My native Finland recently held its presidential elections. The runner up is a skilled and diplomatic politician, and he also happens to have a male life partner. What happened in the media and particularly the social networking sites was quite remarkable – suddenly everyone was preaching about tolerance, acceptance and love. All good and important themes that most of us perceive as virtues of course, but observing the debate made me ...Continue Reading → Share
Your task is not to seek love, but to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
-A Course in Miracles
Love, sweet love. It is so much more than romance – in fact I’d argue that on many occasions romance, as sweet as it is, has more to do with lust and infatuation. However, as it still is one of the most delicious (and delirious!) ...Continue Reading → Share
All too often we forget that love isn’t all about romance. We do a great job replacing love with being in love (thank you, fairy tales and Hollywood)!
Especially if romantic love is not there, much of our focus goes into its absence rather than celebrating the love we have, even if it isn’t packaged in romance.
Romance, as wonderful as it is, is only an aspect of something much ...Continue Reading → Share
Over the past fourteen or fifteen years I’ve spent an enormous amount of time at airports and airplanes – mind the carbon footprint…
I’ve experienced an emergency landing (phew), lost and found luggage and ended up on the same flight with a fellow traveller so often we became the best of travel buddies (still don’t know her name though!).
I’ve seen an on-board heart attack, which the extremely skilled ...Continue Reading → Share
In my life I’ve learned that there are only two relevant questions to ask.
First is ‘What is truthful’ and second ‘What is the most loving action to take’. (Ok, and sometimes also ‘What’s practical’)
For such simple questions the answers can be surprisingly hard to find. Sometimes love can be tough and truth painful. Sometimes love transforms from physical intimacy ...Continue Reading → Share
There are thousands of spiritual and personal development teachers out there, some more credible than others. A ‘one size fits all’ approach doesn’t work with faith and spirituality. Some feel more connected to angels and violet flames, others to traditional religion or spiritual philosophy – there are as many ways as there are people. Even atheists have an approach of some kind. As they say, all roads lead to the same ...Continue Reading → Share
Over the past few months the theme of choice has been prevalent in my personal and working lives alike. Once again, it has made me think about how easily we give our power away to circumstances, conveniently forgetting that in our society there are very few things we cannot choose on a personal level (some would argue we’ve chosen even the non-negotiable factors prior to birth, but that’s another posting altogether!).